Could lending affect your friendship? – Quiz

1.  Read the text and answer the questions.

1. What can a loan not being returned lead to?
If the money that was lent doesn’t come back, it can lead to fights or even legal battles.

2. What effect can lending money have on your position in a friendship?
The action can change the balance of power. The lender becomes superior, while the borrower may feel awkward with the new arrangement.

3. According to the article, once you lend someone money, what advice should you give them?
None! Don’t try to guide the borrower with what they do with the money – let go – and see it as their money. In other words, don’t interfere.

4. What are the potential drawbacks of contracts?
Some friends may not take too kindly to being asked to make it official – seeing it as a lack of trust.

5. With regards to some people, how should you ‘see’ the money you have lent them?
Perhaps it’s best to just see the money as a gift and be pleasantly surprised if something comes back.

2.  Choose the appropriate words or phrases to complete the following sentences.

1. Rather than pay everything at the start, let’s pay in installations .

2. I don’t feel very comfortable. It’s an awkward situation.

3. She’ll be home late as she’s working to a tight deadline .

4. Just relax and learn to let go of your stress!

5. The contract you sign will be legally binding . 

Could lending affect your friendship?

Shakespeare once wrote: ‘Neither a borrower nor a lender be; For loan oft loses both itself and friend’. It’s often paraphrased and used as a warning about the dangers of lending, and how you could risk a friendship through it. But why can lending money be so detrimental to our friendships?

If our friend or family member comes to us for hard cash, it can be very difficult to turn them away. You feel under pressure to help. And if that money doesn’t come back, it can lead to fights or even legal battles. So how can we, as the lender, avoid these complications? According to Bradley T. Klontz, an expert in financial psychology, there are some steps you can take.

Understanding why there is an inevitable risk to lending anything to a friend is the first thing. And it’s not just the risk of losing the money, but the friendship could also be in danger. This is because, psychologically speaking, the action of lending has changed the balance of power. The lender becomes superior, while the borrower may feel awkward with the new arrangement. Likewise, if you try to advise them on what to do with the money, it might make things difficult between you two. In other words, let go – and see it as their money.

And if you can’t afford to lend something, don’t. Saying ‘no’ is hard when a friend comes asking, but if you need that money, denying them is probably the safest course of action. If you still feel the need to lend, making a legally binding agreement and putting things down in writing could guarantee instalments or deadlines. But, some friends may not take too kindly to being asked to make it official – seeing it as a lack of trust.

Finally, for some, it’s best to just see the money as a gift and be pleasantly surprised if something comes back. And if you do want to preserve your friendship, when you need to borrow some money, perhaps a bank is a better option.